I had the chance to check in with mom today during drop off time. Her and I needed to go though some paperwork for our program, so I was able to just check in. Here is what we discussed.
Me: "Good morning, how are things going?"
Mom:" Fine! I got a new job."
Me: "That's wonderful to hear, what will you be doing? What will the hours be?"
Mom: "I will be working third shift at a factory. My hours will be 3-11. I am excited to start working because I would really like to move out of my moms."
Me: "How are you feeling about those hours? How do you plan on squeezing in time for your homework?"
Mom: " I'm going to do my homework while baby is here with you."
Me: " Great, do you think it would be helpful if we sat down together and wrote out a schedule for you? That way you will know what you need to do and when?"
Mom: " I guess."
Me: " Well, we can talk about it when we meet together later this week."
Mom:" Ok."
Me: " I'm so happy for you that you got a job. It is an exciting time for you."
Mom: "Thanks."
I feel a little uncomfortable with this conversation. I am very worried that she is taking on too much. I plan on having a meeting with her later this week, and during that I time I will bring copies of a monthly calender. I will see if she wants to talk about planning her days so that she allows time for schoolwork. From this conversation, I feel as though she is moving away from her focus on finishing school, toward working, and moving out. This is concerning for me because I want her to be able to be successful and be able to move forward with her life. Without having a high school education, she will not be able to get into college and become a nurse like she wants. I will continue to encourage her to work on her homework while the baby is with us, and hopefully be able to show her how managing her time is going to be essential.
I hope that Mom continues on her education plan. As you said it is so important for her to get her GED so that she can get into college. I think that helping her create a schedule would be very helpful, that way she can see what needs to get done in writing.
ReplyDeleteSometimes the busier I am, the more I can accomplish because I know that I need to get things done, and that I only have a certain amount of time to do them. Perhaps the same will be true with Mom.
I agree with Danielle. The busier I am the more I get done. Writing out a schedule would be very helpful and she can see in writing everything she is responsible for. At least she took initiative and found a job. In her mind she is being responsible and making money to support herself and baby.
ReplyDeleteGiven what you have learned about working with adolescents and adolescent parents, what strategies will you use when you talk with her about her schedule?
ReplyDeleteI agree with you that school and homework are priorities, yes, but work is also a priority. She needs to move out and take care of her baby too. I think your support as well as reminding her of a schedule will be an important aspect. Continue to show your support, she is lucky to have you!
ReplyDeleteit sounds like this parent is starting to come around and is letting you in. Its wondeful to read how comfortable you are speaking with her and your willingness to help is awesome.
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